The Unholy Trinity

I don't know. What if. But.

To effectively define the self, one must first be honest in all that they are and all that is around them. Brutally honest. Lying is a way of life for most, and it can take a tremendous amount of effort to undo all that bad programming we've had since childhood, but it can be done. Life is always changing, and there's no reason why you can't live your life honorably just as you live it without honor. Change your perspective and you'll be able to make more effective choices about all that surrounds you.

Honesty starts with you. You are the center of your own 'Verse, and you can shape your reality any way you see fit in both word and deed. One good way to generate some positive energy is to eliminate the following three phrases from your vocabulary. You don't need them. You never did, and by continuing to use them, you are holding yourself back from your own self definition.

I DON'T KNOW

Find out!! If you're using this phrase you are more than likely to be lazy and live in fear. With the ample amount of resources available today, there is no excuse for you not to find the information that you need to know. The Internet is at your fingertips, so stop procrastinating and start typing. If the 'I don't knows' are internal, then take some time to sit with yourself and figure it out. The world is a noisy place, and we use that noise as a buffer to drown out the sound of our own internal monologue. We can't process what we can't hear. Again, this is a lazy way to live your life. If you're living in fear, then you're not really living. You need to find the answers within yourself in order to move forward. The 'I don't knows' won't cut it. Find a quiet space to process your thoughts. The answers are all right before you, as is the courage you need to reach for them. So reach!

WHAT IF

This phrase is reserved for those who are constantly looking in the rear view mirrors of their lives. "What if I had gone out with him in high school?" "What if I had tried harder?" "What if I didn't break that promise?" Enough already. You live in the present. They call it a past for a reason, because it's already happened. You can't change it, and no amount of dwelling upon past events (positive or negative) will change the outcome of your reality in the present moment, so leave it alone. This is wasted energy. Energy that could be better spent dealing with what's in front of you, and planning for a hopeful future. It's okay to learn from the past, but you shouldn't live there.

BUT

This one is for the fence walkers out there. "I'd like to go, but..." Embrace the black and white of the Yin/Yang and make a decision already. The world is not clouded in gray. It's either yes or no. This or that. Now or later. As Yoda said, "Do or do not. There is no try." Fence walkers never move anywhere, and life's too amazingly short not to be moving somewhere. So what if it's the wrong direction? That's how you learn. Make a decision and follow it through to the end. If you don't end up where you wanted, make another decision and see where that leads you. If you're using 'but' in a sentence, you're not being honest with yourself, and like I said earlier, honesty begins with you.

This 'unholy trinity' of phrases act like dams in your stream, preventing your water from flowing. Remove them from your vocabulary and start moving in this world. We are energy. We are always in motion, so find out what you need to know. Live in the present moment. Make effective choices.

The 'Verse waits with open arms.